New women workforce make men feel lost.

 Scott Figatner

Today, I read an interesting article which you can find by clicking Here. According to Pew Research Center, the share of women ages 18 to 34 that say having a successful marriage is one of the most important things in their lives rose nine percentage points since 1997 – from 28 percent to 37 percent. For men, the opposite occurred, dropping from 35 percent to 29 percent.

Apparently, this issue is a hot topic in the media currently. Many men now are saying that they never want to get married. For the writer of this piece, this stems from women effectively taking over the work force. That's right, there are now more women working than men.

After interviewing many hundreds of men and women, the writer found an answer. Men think that women just aren't women anymore. Since the sexual revolution, women are angry and defensive because they've been raised to think of men as enemies.

Think about it. If you've ever watched a chick flick—and unfortunately I've watched many—you will see that men are portrayed as lying, shallow, disloyal jerks. I've heard from countless of my friends that "all men are pigs" and things like that. As men, we now have to be extremely careful of what we say and how we say it.

The writer says that men are tired of being blamed for everything that goes wrong in a relationship. "It has also undermined their ability to become self-sufficient in the hopes of someday supporting a family. Men want to love women, not compete with them. They want to provide for and protect their families – it’s in their DNA. But modern women won’t let them" (Venker, Suzanne). She suggests that women "surrender to their nature.

I agree with this writer that men are confused at this moment in history and do not know how to deal with women that are assertive and defensive. I think that if women want males to shed their stereotypes of women, they need to extinguish their own deeply embedded prejudices. Men and women are 100 percent equal, but they are not the same. I would like to advise people not to shy away from marriage. Rather, people need to embrace our masculine and feminine qualities, but just recognize that they do not make us superior, inferior, guilty or victimized.